It immediately became a topic after Bow Wanda Sahawong the wife of Por Trithadee the famous late actor and devoted mother of Nong Mali Phakwan and Jay Karnsophon, a member of the band DICE, went live to talk about cute moments with her children, but this sparked immediate drama. The summary of the controversy is as follows:
- Mother Bow went live to chat with fans, sharing the adorable moments of her children.
- During the live, Mother Bow talked about teaching her son: “When grandpa says something unpleasant, don’t argue. Sometimes grandpa is tired because he has to take care of Jay instead of mom. Grandpa takes good care of Jay, so I asked Jay to just say ‘yes, yes’ (‘krub krub’). After that, whether Jay chooses to do it or not is up to him, but he must accept the consequences and not just accept passively but also be responsible.”
- Someone then clipped this moment and posted it on TikTok because it was seen as cute.
- However, drama erupted immediately when an academic discussed this parenting method of teaching children to say “krub/ka” (polite particles).
- The academic's point was that teaching children to say “krub/ka” first and decide later is common in Thai families. In the short term, it helps children socially survive by not arguing or clashing with elders. But the concern is that children may learn that words need not match actions. When forced to agree before truly choosing, children may grow up lacking ownership of their decisions, becoming adults who say “yes” but don’t follow through, avoid direct refusal, and unknowingly damage trust in relationships.
- Based on this article, many criticized Bow Wanda's parenting, suggesting children should be taught to refuse confidently and speak reasonably. Some said judgment shouldn’t be based on a 2-minute clip. The controversy hurt feelings of the clip editor and fans, even though there was no ill intent.
- Mother Bow quickly responded, saying it’s not just about telling her child to say yes or no and moving on. Being a single mother is not as easy as writing a book. Real-life motherhood is harder than writing neat words to impose on family members and their feelings.
- As long as she lives as a good mother who knows what to do and not to do, Bow trusts her feelings in daily life. When feeding her child, does she have to open a book to check if the feeding angle must be 45 or 90 degrees? Each child is different.
- If your child prefers 45 degrees but you read 90 degrees in a book and insist on that, the child won’t get fed at 45 even if they like it. Instead, you feed at 90 degrees because the book says it's better.
- Mother Bow also said that if academic principles are forced on her family, how can family happiness arise?
- Regarding the perception that Jay only says “krub krub,” she said their private life isn’t like that. At home, he takes responsibility for many things.
- Maybe it was Mother Bow’s mistake to share about saying yes/no, and the academic critic wrote two pages. Real life isn’t as simple as writing in a book.
- So, to any academic who sees a short clip, don’t judge people and write beautifully worded articles. Principles are fine, but not when used to hurt others.
- Have academic principles ever said we must respect others and understand their background? If a short video clip causes academics to critique and hurt children’s feelings, then she apologizes.
- To the person who clipped and posted the video, Mother Bow said, don’t stress. She understands the purpose was love and admiration for Jay and DICE members. The clip editor did not intend harm but was unfortunate that an expert showed off knowledge in that clip.
- Mother Bow added that no matter how knowledgeable you are, you should at least understand social etiquette and respect people.
- Additionally, Mother Bow wrote in a caption: “If the 2-minute clip makes anyone uncomfortable, I apologize. But behind the scenes, we prioritize family feelings and learn from them. Kids can be confident that this single mother fully cares for Jay. Even when facing difficulties, we overcome them with love and understanding. The 2-minute clip came from good feelings and love, but those who edited it negatively are not the original owners. Keep clipping, kid, as long as your clips spread positive energy. Let’s take care of each other’s feelings.”
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