First time opening up "DJ Man Patthanapol" After his wife "Baitey Rsiam" gave an interview ending their relationship as husband and wife, leaving only the status of parents to their daughter. "Nong Wetmon" He also addressed their marital problems, admitting to shortcomings as a husband and heavy stress from the media coverage, in a talk show hosted by DJ Puttichai and Tanya Thanayaret.
Did Baitey say that they divorced and ended their relationship?
"Yes, that's true. But it actually started a long time ago. I'll share this here first. The reason for the divorce was that since we were charged, it felt like living in hell. We knew nothing about the case at first. From being just witnesses, the family became stressed. People came in both good and bad ways, some tried to extort us. It was overwhelming. We felt stressed and began to argue."
"One thing a father or a gentleman should have done during our fights was to protect the family. I always thought maybe it happened because I knew that person before Baitey, not knowing that seven years ago he wasn't at fault until one day he was. I could only think that nothing should affect my wife and child. That's what an ordinary person thinks. I told my mother to stop crying and thinking too much. We fought, then divorced. That was all I could think at the time."
Did you just divorce but remain husband and wife in the relationship?
"At that time, I thought love meant more than attraction. It meant responsibility to protect my wife and child. I didn't know we were innocent and had done nothing as accused. I thought my wife should take care of our child without disturbance. Baitey is hardworking and talented. All our money was earned honestly. We feared there might be processes to harass us."
So the divorce didn't end the relationship?
"There were times we argued every night, choosing different lawyers, our parents stressed on both sides. It was a total breakdown, very bad. Before going in, it was so bad I can't explain. There were fights and paperwork. Living there made us unhappy. We thought separation might be the best way. Even without bad events, maybe separation was inevitable at that moment."
Is the relationship truly over, leaving only the parental role?
"Legally, it ended long ago. We didn't know for a while. When the case was dismissed, many thoughts came up whether we'd reunite. But I always believed in our innocence and that the court would be just—and it was. We had no involvement in the accusations. I feel sorry for Baitey, who was released on bail and stayed alone. When I returned, I wondered what to do. We hadn't met for 7 years and 7 months. She's very kind. I don't know what a small woman thinks, but I was happy to be back with my daughter on Christmas, like being a family again."
The main reason Man admits may be his own negligence as a husband?
"Let me give a cautionary tale. Sometimes men are oblivious. I forgot to pay attention to sensitive things. Baitey is hardworking, performing every day, going to concerts and work. I forgot to hug her, say I love her, or drive her myself. People around me asked why I never drove Baitey anywhere. She wanted me to accompany her, hug her."
"If there was a day to go to Khao Yai with our daughter, I'd say 'Honey, take our daughter and your father, let's go.' I’d stay home to look after the house, garden, and my small business. I forgot she wanted me by her side all along. This happened over many years, before and after marriage. After our daughter was born, I focused solely on her because I never imagined having such a cute little girl, so I gave her all my time."
Knowing this was the problem, why not adjust and love your wife more?
"It was too late to adjust. Before going in, we had many issues. We didn’t realize what was in her heart. I didn’t pay attention as before. I only realized after the latest deep talk."[Fragment, single word:] Deep talk latest"When we reunited in a broken state, all the old images came back—the same places, the same fights, the same bed where we argued fiercely about the case. We blamed each other's parents. It all fell apart. Those images made me wonder if we were still happy or if she still loved me. It was no longer just about sex. At first, I thought as a man I fulfilled that role. But no. Sometimes Baitey would come to me and say 'Daddy, give me a hug,' and then she’d cry."
Baitey told Man that loving only the child is not enough in a marriage?
"Yes, I often told our daughter she is my life and I love her most. I promise to protect her if anyone harms her. Baitey told me not to forget to love the mother of our child too. She needs love. I heard this for months but didn’t realize it was a wound in her heart and that she was struggling with depression."
Has the separate bedroom situation been long-standing?
"Our activities differ greatly. Sometimes I shoot dramas or YouTube videos early morning, while Baitey returns from concerts at 1, 2, or 3 AM. She’s into fashion and dance, often changing her band, and uses her phone loudly. I told her I had to send our daughter and go to work, so I’d sleep in another room since I can’t sleep easily. This habit grew until we got used to it. Sometimes we watch movies together. Sometimes she records videos saying she can’t sleep because I snore loudly. But actually, when I’m with her I fall asleep quickly because I feel warm. I think I missed this too. Couples should sleep together and talk more. We lost that opportunity for years, only sleeping together every five or six days instead of daily, even if annoying, just to be together."
After many months of talking, did you try to change your behavior?
"We adjusted, but after changing and still living together, it seemed she only spoke up after years of building wounds and emotional trauma. We both felt it was really heavy and hard to explain."
Was there enough time to adapt?
"Less than a month is not enough; many things need time and effort. But she kept giving chances. I’m sensitive and tend to doubt her feelings—whether she still loves or wants me. Then we face the same old arguments and places. It’s hard. Even though our daughter could heal us, there’s constant conflict."ConflictAlways present."
At what point did you decide to end it?
"Not really ended. Before marriage, we fought heavily several times. I was still wild, hanging out in Thonglor; she felt neglected. We agreed to separate and live our own lives. Baitey traveled abroad; I went to the provinces. After about a month, we missed each other. When she messaged me, she said she missed me. I said if you miss me, come back. It worked twice. That was the past. But now we haven’t tried again."
Baitey is busy with work now. Are you happy for her?
"Yes, very happy. She deserves this. She did nothing wrong and is a capable working woman. We see her smile and happiness return. She told me about having work for dancers, makeup artists, sound and lighting teams, all supporting the family. She carries many on her back. Everyone is happy. I told her it’s good to see her smile again. Since my release and her depression, she was absent-minded. Now she’s happiest, even if without me. I’m glad because those who love her are happy."
Another reason for separating was to divide time to care for each family?"We talked about this. When we were in complete hell, we forgot those visiting us daily: our parents. My 75-year-old father drove an old car to visit me every day without fail except holidays. We forgot this. Now we can’t divide time since we’re with our daughter all day. My father can’t walk after hip surgery. He seemed broken-hearted not to go."Continuing about therapy
Physical therapy—he became unable to walk on one side. He loves me deeply. My mother, 75 or 76 years old, has diabetes and other ailments. Returning to our childhood home without us, it was dilapidated and dirty. Dad took expired vitamins; the kitchen was destroyed by termites. It was heartbreaking."
We must restore this home because the remaining life of these two is shorter than ours. We don’t want to waste time. Those who love us most deserve our love and care too. Wetmon still has her mother, mother-in-law, and nanny taking care of her, so we can come and go. As Baitey said, we should take good care of our parents. When we think clearly, we can start anew. If we return with better minds, without arguing about old issues, things might improve. We might reunite or not, but I want those who love her to be happiest and hope she finds someone good. She told me the same. This is the future."
Did you hear Baitey's interview with the whole country?
"I was quite shocked. It felt bad. I thought, 'Why say that?' But I understand the reporters noticed no birthday photos of me. Maybe Baitey had to say those things. It made me sad that everyone asks me about it."
What was the initial agreement?
"We never said don't talk publicly, but it was supposed to be a deep private talk between us. We focused on Wetmon, who has many responsibilities even at a young age. But Baitey spoke out. That stressed me and reopened old wounds. Instead of being peaceful, positive friends started calling, asking if it was true, which made me more stressed. If it was quiet, no one would ask. If things got better, it would be fine; if not, it might become news."
Do you still hope to reconcile?
"I always have hope because she is the mother of my child. It’s family—more than attraction or lover. She gave interviews elsewhere saying sometimes separation might be better and that everything could return to family if things improve. But some interviews stressed me out."
Some comments joked that Baitey's good husband is her new one?
"Maybe that's true. If it’s meant to happen, it will. I’ve faced heavier trials. I focus on being the best father. That’s my happiness. Whether it happens or not, if she is happy with someone better—though I don’t know what better means—I will also be happy."
Aren't you worried about escaping from the frying pan into the fire?
"We’ll see. I’ll call P'Pek. I worry about her choice of friends and partners. As you see, I care. I want her to distinguish true friends from false ones. Baitey is kind to everyone."
Baitey said she’s done with love, won’t remarry, and will focus on work and child. Does that ease your mind?
"I believe that’s truly her thought. I’ve known her for 17 years. Baitey never says 'I love you,' is proud, and values dignity as a Dragon year woman. She acts more than speaks. I know her well enough to believe this is true. Some interviews said we agreed I should grow and work more to better support the family and her. That’s true."
Because after Baitey’s depression, you used all your energy to help her recover. When she got better, maybe you forgot if that energy returned to you. You haven’t talked to anyone except your father. Maybe you’re depressed or weaker now. You even lost appetite recently. You might have stress disorder but haven’t seen a doctor yet. You like to overcome things yourself first. Even in prison, you didn’t consult a doctor. It’s heavy. You think you might need to see one soon. Talking to a doctor might give new insights."
Besides family stress, do you have work stress too?
"As you see, I’m an actor. Everything changed but I’m grateful producers still value me. Drama can’t sustain life like before. Used to do 4-5 shows a year. Now it’s vertical format, Netflix style, everything changed. I’m happy to act in movies, using my skills. There’s a new series. Regarding amulet work, after being discredited, it felt like starting over. I’ve always worked with credibility, but after being discredited, 70% vanished."
Today I host 'Khotman,' demanding justice for the country and myself, sharing insights, interviewing police and others to reveal the real system where accused must be imprisoned or fight cases. How to avoid corruption harming innocent people? Corruption has more power than good people now. I’m not afraid and keep going. I still have good allies but earnings aren’t the same. This is also stressful. What I built is substantial but support is limited. So I sell products with P'Pek and Tanya, who kindly help. I sell roll-ons and do whatever honest work I can. Not ashamed."
Do you feel responsible for breaking the family?
"Yes, I often think I caused everything. If I hadn’t brought that person into our lives, my wife wouldn’t suffer, nor would her family. I blame myself, never others. I know I played a part in our family’s state. But when I meditate, I remind myself to live in the present because I can’t change the past. Now I’m innocent. Everything that happened is a lesson that might change my life role. For example, now I’m a university speaker, inspiring students with past mistakes to be good people. That brings me happiness."
Have you apologized to Baitey for what happened?
"I apologize to her all the time, even while inside prison and at court. Seeing her condition, I said sorry. She cried and said it’s okay; she never resented me. She’s a kind and good woman. I’ve never been with anyone as long as her. She’s very good."
How do you explain things to your daughter?
"I don’t know yet. We come and go because of her. Baitey also entrusts our daughter to me. Next month and two months after, Baitey has full concert schedules. Our daughter stays with a nanny. I take her to activities like Herbaland or whatever she likes. Kids are smart; she even asks about the Buddha's appearance and why there are many statues. I must think carefully answering because she remembers deeply. I believe she’s smart enough to understand our family struggles and will live well. Someday, if she knows or we reunite, she’ll understand. Our daughter’s love is powerful enough to connect everything."
Regarding tuition fees, Man says he pays everything himself?
"You might wonder if I’m serious or joking. Since I was inside, I didn’t know what happened to my ex-wife. But from the first term, my sister in America helped with money along with my younger brother Lux. Otherwise, it’s my responsibility. I have school statements showing I pay fully. The first term might have been tough because Baitey was out, and expenses were high. But I was inside, unaware. From the first term on, both families helped but mainly my responsibility."
What do you want to say to those who linked tuition fee rumors?
"In mediation talks, everyone knew what was said, and it should have ended there. I don’t know why it was spoken publicly. Better to keep it private. If you want to help someone you love, you don’t need to speak in public. It looks bad. Also, media will twist things. Don’t cross the line, especially about my daughter. That’s all I warn."
Do you still live in the same house?
"Yes, this morning too. Baitey has concerts. I have a Burmese maid, Nong Mali, who stays with our daughter all day. Wetmon isn’t afraid of Mali and treats her like a friend. Wetmon does activities I don’t like, such as playing on the iPad or eating ice cream. She controls it all. When I’m home, I take her out to see grandparents. We go back and forth for now. We talk about when we might live apart. She’s confused about what to do. She suggests I stay away a bit to have time to miss each other."
Since marriage, you never sat by the sea for simple rest to recharge?
"I used to be indie, riding a motorcycle to drink coffee at Khao Yai and then come back with ideas for shows. Sometimes you need time for yourself, your safe zone, to look at the sky or the mountains. In 7 years, I never lived like that, always with our daughter. Now all I smell is her scent. The harshness is gone (laughs). Now all my time is for her."
What did you think when posting thanks to your daughter for making you a new person and bringing you back from the edge, saying you won’t be the same man again?
"I never spoke publicly or posted before, keeping feelings inside until I reflected. Taking our daughter to pay respects at grandparents’ house, looking at her, I remembered how I used to react. If someone mentioned me, I’d post or go confront them. Just looking at her, I felt I must be a good example for her future. Her school’s foreign teacher nicknamed me 'The Godfather.' I told her it’s not true; I’m just ordinary. Mafia means what, dear? That’s my image but I’m sensitive and cry easily. Some of my clothes have Kuromi prints. People laugh when taking photos with me. Our daughter adds sweetness to life. Looking at her, I know I can’t be the same man. I must be more mindful, think before I speak, and weigh everything for her. That’s why I wrote that message."Wetmon, 5 years old, knows a lot?"So much it’s confusing. We meditate together every night. She quickly memorizes mantras of Luang Pu Iam Wat Nang, given to King Rama V during his European travels, which changed horses’ behavior and boat direction. I believe this mantra is very sacred and special. I teach Wetmon to recite it daily. She memorizes and after five recitations, she swallows saliva, thinking of the Buddha’s face, which brings good things. She’s learning to recite the 'Buddha Conquers Mara' mantra. Teaching mantras helps memory, concentration, and prevents distractions. Wetmon is usually hyper but becomes marvelous when chanting. At five, I was still getting kicked behind canals, but she can do this already. We teach her slowly; she can meditate counting to 100."
Did you pray when Wetmon was conceived?
"Yes, I prayed at the time of intimacy, which should be passionate, emotional, like in the movie '365 Days.' I seriously wished for a good child to come and help change the country, maybe as a doctor or talented person. I prayed at Wat Bowonniwet and Wat Arun, asking that if this child is born, to mark a mole anywhere I can see. If this prayer comes true when my child is born, I want to see it."
"When she was born, she had a mole on her forehead. Baitey, since dating and through pregnancy, was the kindest woman, always listening, never angry, meditating with me every night, and eating simple food. During pregnancy, she only ate grilled and ground squid. During Covid, motorcycle taxi drivers searched for the squid to feed my wife urgently. I didn’t know how to find it but they did. We felt this was a miracle known only to us. If told to others, they might think we’re crazy, but I believe nothing is coincidental in this world."
Dreaming of snakes again?
"Baitey and I dreamed simultaneously of a big snake. Our newly bought house was visited several times by respected friends and doctors, who said the guardian spirit here is a big snake. We didn’t think much. I often saw snakes near the house, almost every night. I caught and released them, praying they wouldn’t harm our family. I think snakes aren’t as scary as people. But after leaving prison, many miraculous things happened. We dreamed of a big black snake swimming beside us for two nights. Baitey had the same dream."
Then we did a ceremony for a movie I acted in with Bee Namthip. A kid was there. I asked his name; he said Ram. He said he makes Naga sculptures and would make one for my home. After filming in Ayutthaya, he invited me to his home and pointed where the spirit would reside. He sculpted it live by hand in nine days. I was amazed. This piece looked like the one from 'Game of Thrones.'"[Fragment, 'Game of Thor']Many say this spirit is alive and looks exactly like this. It’s called 'Black San Siri Chantra.'
After the ceremony, something strange happened; maybe the spirit didn’t like me. My wife kicked me out of the house (laughs). Just kidding. Baitey has a busy life with only good things. The first time we lit incense for the spirit, not long after, she asked Wetmon what lottery number to pick. Wetmon said 87-something. They won the lottery for the first time. I want Baitey to meditate more to enhance her fortune. Maybe she’s too busy now. If not, these things wouldn’t manifest. P'Lek Wat Phai Ngoen is similar. At one time, we had almost no money but got offered payment for a sculpture."
Since then, Baitey and I have improved day by day. Though some setbacks occurred, work, money, and gold improved daily. Our house has become a small shrine. Someone selling air purifiers made a vow and later called to say the spirit appeared in a dream instructing them to perform a ritual. They sold 1.7 million baht worth of products after the vow. Many come to make offerings; many requests are fulfilled. It can’t be coincidence."
What would you say if your daughter watches this program one day?
"I want to say that your father and mother love you always, no matter what happens. Being your parents is an unbreakable role. You are a fighter’s bloodline. Understand this harsh world; it won’t be easy, but know I love you most and would give my life for you. Grow to be a good person and fighter like your grandparents. We lack nothing. If you hear bad news, ask me or my good friends. You can rest assured those bad things aren’t really bad—they are just part of this world. Grow confidently to be a good member of society. Your father loves you always."
Will you have a new love?
"I can’t say. Since Baitey announced, it’s a good thing I’m popular now. Some offers come, but not yet. I want to stay quiet. If possible, I still love her and the family and am ready to care for them."
Are you waiting for her?
"I want her pain to heal first. The future will tell."
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