"Boy Pisanu" Today, he shares an update on the adorable charm of his daughter. "Freya" She is now 4 years old. He also reveals downgrading the status of his former wife to just the mother of his child, having kept quiet for a full two years. Today, he is ready to share the heavy life storms he faced—work problems, financial issues, family troubles, and harsh criticism from netizens about being jobless and down on his luck. Recently, he made a major life decision to undergo permanent vasectomy, sharing this on the "Kuy Zaap Show" on One31 channel, hosted by DJ Putt Puttichai and Ning Panita.
Why did you get a vasectomy for your child? How did it start?
"There's a backstory, and I thought about it for quite some time. I wanted to feel like I could control my own life. Lately, I started thinking about the future. If I don’t want things to turn out a certain way, I need to prevent it now and live safely and properly. I feel happy having just one wife; she completes my life enough. And I wonder, if we had another child, how would that affect our current child? It can be viewed many ways. It's not right for me to decide for my wife, but I consider that if we had a new child, would our first child feel less loved? Suddenly having a new person appear—there are reasons. Having children with the same mother is probably not a problem, but if with someone else, I think issues would arise."
You're thinking ahead even though you don't have anyone else?
"No, and I don't want to have more children either. So I’m preventing it now. I think one child is just right—not a burden, but a responsibility for a life. I don't like to call it a burden because he’s a fulfillment. We are very happy having him. But tuition, living expenses—they're all on me. One child matches the energy I have now as I get older. More would be too tiring. So one is enough."
Your close friend "Tonhom" commented, what if your daughter wants a sibling?
"When would she ask? She's only 4 now. If she asks now, she doesn’t really understand what it means. It made me think, 'Am I in trouble?' (laughs) But I’ve thought it through. No matter what others say, I listen but have decided my path."
Thinking about the future and preventing problems now?
"We don’t know. People say nowadays condoms exist, which help prevent pregnancy and diseases. Of course, we use them when needed (laughs). But vasectomy is nearly 100 percent effective, about 99 percent."
Have you ever asked Freya if she wants a sibling?
"Never asked because I think she doesn't understand much yet. She's just 4, and doesn’t know what having a sibling is like. Sometimes she doesn't even want friends at school (laughs). She likes playing alone, not really introverted but very energetic. Her development is good; at school she talks about some friends, but I never asked if she wants a sibling."
If in the future you have a serious partner who wants children, what then?
"Then that’s the wrong stop. This stop has no children (laughs). We have to clarify from the start that I’ve had a vasectomy and don’t want more kids. They have to understand my rules. Also, I’m older now and don’t want more children."
Are you seeing anyone?
"No, not at all, and I don’t want to. I don’t know why, but now my time is spent on work. When I’m not working, I dedicate all my time to my child. When would I have time to support someone else emotionally? I have to give my time to others? Right now, my life is good."
You focus your daily efforts on work and caring for your child?
"I put my child first. Without him, I don’t know what life would be for. Having him gives me energy and keeps me alert. No matter how tired I am, I think I’ve changed a lot—my mindset and many things—because of Freya. She makes me happy. Raising her is tiring, not financially, but because her development is rapid. I have to keep up with her, and sometimes when she doesn’t speak clearly, I worry about how to help her control her emotions. I fear she might not manage her feelings. When I can’t control her feelings, I feel it too. But I keep trying to find ways."
After posting clips, Tonhom commented, and social media questioned if Boy is a selfish father thinking for his child?
"I read those comments and appreciate the opinions. I understand everyone. But everyone’s life path is different. I’ve planned my life this way and am happy enough. I don’t want to add confusion or exhaustion to my life. I was born wanting happiness. The happiness Freya gives me fills me up. If I had another child and it exceeded what I can handle or affected my child, I wouldn’t do it. That’s the life path I chose. But I understand everyone. I read comments but don’t reply. They probably just care about our news. Mostly adults comment."
How old is Freya?
"Four years and three months. Children grow fast. Her development is excellent; every month there's something new, always surprising us. She has so much energy, and it’s exhausting to get her to sleep."
Is she mischievous? Who does she resemble?
"Actually, she’s like both Amanda and me. She got the cheerful, lively energy from me, but the discipline from her mother. When she’s just with her mother, Freya is very orderly. I always say if I didn’t have Amanda, I wouldn’t know how to raise a child. She’s very good at it, perhaps a bit too strict for me, but that’s good. She researches everything—child development, learning methods—and guides Freya’s growth. For example, if Freya throws a tantrum or won’t put away her shoes, Amanda patiently makes her do it repeatedly until it becomes habit. Freya, when she comes back to Amanda's condo, counts 1, 2, 3, opens the door, takes off shoes and socks, and puts the socks in the basket, then changes clothes."
That’s completely different from how you raise her?
"My patience is low (laughs). I do follow Amanda’s approach sometimes, but sometimes nature takes over and I have to do things myself. Like after Freya finishes eating, she should clean up, but I want her to eat more, so I feed her. That causes some conflict. Luckily, Amanda doesn’t see it, or she’d complain about me. But as I said, she’s a super mom."
Freya speaks three languages?
"Swedish, because she lives there. English, used at school since she was young, and Thai. At first, I worried because around age three she didn’t speak Thai at all. That became a problem because she lives here. Thai is important—reading and writing. She attends an international school where mostly English is spoken, but I try to speak Thai to her often—me, her mother, and friends on set. We want her to know many people speak Thai. Recently, she has started speaking Thai more, saying things like 'Daddy, where are you? Are you working?' I worry about the language since little is spoken at school."
Don’t want Freya to study abroad?
"Correct. But in the future, I’ll let her decide. For now, I don’t want to be apart from her. I don’t know how I’d live without her. I miss her after just a few days apart. If she went abroad for a year, how many times would I see her? So I’ve asked that, if possible, don’t take my child far from me. We understand each other."
The news has been out for a while that Boy and Amanda separated. How did you explain to Freya that her parents don’t live together anymore?
"Amanda and I thought about this together before making any decisions. We haven’t explained our status to Freya yet, but she senses we live separately. We can still see each other; sometimes we do activities with her together or separately. When we meet, there’s no problem affecting Freya. I don’t get angry or fight or show affection in front of her. If we lived together without love or sweetness, Freya might wonder why her parents don’t touch or hug. So we chose to live apart but still fulfill our roles as parents and remain good friends."
Do you still talk daily? How do you keep communication about Freya’s development?
"We talk every day. When I miss Freya, I video call Amanda and talk to Freya. We discuss her development. When she’s dropped off, Amanda sits in the house with us; when I visit Amanda’s condo, I play with Freya. Freya senses these feelings herself. We haven’t explained everything yet because early on, she tried to hold both our hands and push us together, wanting us to kiss. She knows something is different."
Like the instinct that parents should kiss and hug? How do you handle that?
"I don’t know how to fix it, but it feels stuck inside. Sometimes I don’t know how to express our feelings to her properly. I try to avoid it so that any words or gestures don’t feel like rejection. Gradually, she accepted it, and now it happens less. Sometimes we walk holding hands at the mall, and that’s fine. We remain good friends."
You reduced your status for almost two years to avoid news. What was the reason?
"I felt that separation or living apart leads to many interpretations. People like to assume things, and you can’t stop their thoughts. We live in media, but consumers may misunderstand. Misinterpretation causes chaos. I didn’t want this to be part of Freya’s digital footprint. When she grows up and searches, I don’t want these things to affect her mentally. In the future, if this remains, can it be erased? No. And if she sees it, how would she feel? She might search for things that aren’t true. So it’s better not to be in the news. But eventually, the news came out after we’d been living apart for years."
Any chance to reunite as a family? You’re single and devoted to your child; why not consider it might be better?
"We’re quite different. Our mindsets don’t match. She’s very precise, and I’m chill, an artist who uses feelings to solve problems. She uses logic and reason, which is good. I’m not disappointed she is the mother of my child or that she loved me. I still feel good. Now we’re both happy. Life’s happiness is important. If something brings happiness and we can be there, it’s good. If it reduces our happiness, better not to be there."
Being good parents?
"We don’t fight or have problems. We talk politely. Sometimes when talking to Freya, voices get a bit loud, and she says, ‘Daddy, don’t fight.’ Kids are quick to notice. I tell her no, we’re just talking louder, not fighting. Kids pick up on feelings quickly, which is why we live apart. Even when we meet rarely and voices rise, she senses it."
Did you become more mindful because of your child?
"Yes."
During your life storm, with work and financial issues, what was it like?
"My luck was terrible for two years. Problems with work and family came together. Was it stressful? Yes. With many responsibilities and 90 percent job loss, who wouldn’t be stressed? I’m the head of the family and have to care for everyone around me. There was stress. When reporters asked, I answered honestly about the impact."
Many don’t read the details and are shocked by headlines like Boy Pisanu is down and sold a 70-million-baht house?
"It sounds huge, but it’s true I wanted to sell (laughs). Before selling the house, I posted about selling a car. The car was bought and sold with little loss (laughs). I’ve had cars for 3-4 years and change them, using funds for the company. But the house—I dreamed of it my whole life. I’ve been in the industry 20 years, saved for this dream house. I never thought of selling it because I wanted to live there."
But as time passed, you loosened your attachment?
"Yes, I realized my attachment was just my thoughts. If I could let go and lighten my load, would life improve? Would I feel more free? Selling and moving to a smaller home, lowering my pride and cutting big things in life, then using the money to save—it felt freeing. It made moving easier. We shouldn’t worry about the future in the present. I tend to worry about the future instead of enjoying the present."
You had depression for a while?
"Yes, I never thought I’d have depression, but in the past three years, due to many reasons, I changed. I felt less confident, didn’t want to see anyone. There’s always a root cause. People with depression get stuck in repetitive negative thoughts, asking why life is like this without finding answers. When stuck, the chance of illness is high because the mind doesn’t think about anything else, just the same thing day and night, causing insomnia. I felt very abnormal, from being lively to not wanting to go out."
Did it affect the little work you had left?
"It did. I felt it. On one show, I had to entertain and be fun but couldn’t fully. The producer told me not to talk over others because it was hard to understand. My chemistry dropped. I sat silently thinking, 'What did I do wrong? They’re criticizing me again.' Before, I was lively and laughed things off, but I started taking small criticisms to heart, making me feel worse, blaming myself. That’s when I sought medical help."
Was it so severe you couldn’t find a way out?
"Yes. Even sitting still made me want to vomit. Friends invited me to golf, but I was stressed and sick on the course, had to leave early. I kept thinking, didn’t want to go anywhere, stayed home with no energy for new things. I thought I was not normal."
What was the turning point to see a doctor?
"The vomiting. Mainly family issues—I couldn’t accept what happened. I didn’t expect life like this. I expected happiness with family. When it wasn’t, I was deeply down. Everything I dreamed about collapsed. I blamed myself and was very stressed until suddenly I couldn’t handle it and would vomit. So I went to see a doctor, wondering if I was crazy. The doctor prescribed medication, which increased over time but didn’t fully cure me. Without medication, life was hard. The meds balanced my brain chemistry, helping me relax. Eventually, it helped but didn’t fully cure me."
Did the medication make you drowsy?
"No. It depends on the medicine and the person’s symptoms. Severe cases might require stronger meds. Mine were basic, helping to stop repetitive stressful thoughts and make me feel refreshed and more energetic, not stuck in problems."
How long was treatment?
"About two years, but not fully cured. Now, I’m back and fully recovered, off all meds. It came from mental issues inside. I found a therapy I can’t mention, which freed me from the end stage of medication. It made me look inward, understand who I am, and how to solve life’s problems. I realized I was carrying everything alone without support. I thank myself for being strong and making it. No one else said it, so I have to thank myself."
"I work at Masterpiece Hospital, a cosmetic surgery hospital. I had a chance to talk with Dr. Sae (Dr. Rawee Wat Maschamadal), who invited me to work together. I talked to the hospital and tried it out. I work there 3-4 days a week, and the rest I take entertainment jobs. I still sell fish and run Mon Boy business. My main business is a tour company, which I still operate. You can check my Instagram or fan pages. Mon Boy is still running. I’m still in entertainment, doing everything I’m hired for."Watch the clipClick to read more
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