This has been a topic of much speculation and intense criticism online regarding Ice Apisada Kruakongka. Until now, Ice has never spoken publicly about her husband. Recently, she addressed the issue on[Khom Kho Story Podcast] EP.103 “Ice Apisada.”Ice opened up candidly about the major storm of rumors during her pregnancy announcement, after someone falsely claimed to be the "second world" and accused her of sharing a husband, which became a sensational news story at that time.
When Ice announced her pregnancy, suddenly there was a heavy wave of rumors accusing her of being a 'second world' or sharing her husband with someone else. How did she handle her feelings and deal with the trolls and negative comments?
"The part that really stung was when I announced my pregnancy, and while many people congratulated me, some questioned why I wasn't married or following the usual steps. But I wanted it this way—I’m not big on weddings; I just wanted a family and a child. After announcing my pregnancy, rumors started.
Suddenly, someone claimed I was a 'second world' and that this person shared the same husband as me. This person kept DM-ing a lot of my friends, who then told me. I knew it was harassment. I told myself not to care because it wasn’t true. At first, I thought I’d just ignore it and flew to America. Then that person changed their Instagram bio to 'I share the same husband as Ice Apisada.'"
When they changed their bio like that, the media picked it up, and I realized I had been too careless. If I had just blocked them earlier, none of this would have happened. At that time, I was in America with a big time difference. I woke up to find it had become a news story. I didn’t expect it to blow up like that.
It had already happened. Many people sent me articles to read, and my heart sank even though I knew better. I was almost out of my mind reading it, questioning if my husband had invited her here or there. I checked my calendar to see what I was doing at that time since we were together. I even started to doubt myself.
I tried to pull myself together. We were together, and I reminded myself that the person doing this wanted to make me unhappy and break us up. But I’m a fighter. I told myself to dream on, that I wouldn’t give them what they wanted. It actually made us love each other more.
On that day, my husband said he didn’t regret choosing me and didn’t think I was that strong. I had to take care of his feelings because he’s not in this industry. He was hurt by the rumors and said this is the dark side of social media.
He’s a private person who likes peace. He knows I’m a celebrity and said he doesn’t care much, but when this happened he asked me if I saw the downside of social media, where anyone can write anything. He asked if I was going to sue or fight back because in his country, people don’t get away with this.
So I consulted a lawyer and reviewed all the comments. It was all negative energy. I felt sick and couldn’t take it. If I was going to fight, I had to fight to the end. But at that moment, being pregnant, I wondered if I should just let it go. I didn’t want to carry that negativity in my body, even reading those comments.
If I spoke out then to deny it, some would believe me and some wouldn’t. If I said nothing, some would believe and some wouldn’t anyway. I asked my friends how they felt reading the rumors. They said if they were the wife, they would have to come forward and show themselves, especially if they had children. They wouldn’t stay invisible because they are the wife.
I thought, that’s true. But I wasn’t ready to face people who would still say I was lying. So I decided not to talk about it because I believe the truth is the truth.
But not clearing it up has its downsides, because people assume things. They think if it wasn’t true, I’d speak up. For me, my way to solve problems is not to give attention to what’s untrue. If it’s true, I’ll speak up and say so.
It has taken a long time. Even now, when I don’t post photos of my husband, people assume I’m sharing him with others. I want people to understand that I don’t post him because I see how harsh social media can be. I respect him. In real life, he’s a responsible head of the family, nothing lacking. Our real life is very happy, but I don’t broadcast it online. I want to say that I do have my happiness.
When asked how she feels about having no family photos on social media but having framed family pictures all around the house, she said this is her real world. This has greatly reduced how much she shares online. Her husband said that in his culture, people are taught not to flaunt their happiness too much. Problems come from envy. But in Asia, if you hide it, you’re seen as strange and must show off your happiness.
They initially had different views because she’s in showbiz and expected to share, but his family believes you can be happy without sharing. Sharing creates problems. His mother taught him this. He even said she shouldn’t post pictures of their child on social media. They discussed this, and at first he didn’t want her to post, but later understood that as a celebrity she can’t hide their child. He said she can post now but must think about the child’s future, so the child won’t be upset later. She must be responsible for her actions.
Her husband said if the child finds out and comes home from school asking why friends know about a trip or something because the mother posted it, and if the child wants privacy someday, she must respect that and give the child space by not posting.
He asked if she feels strange posting where they travel. She said no, everyone checks into hotels. But he sees it as unsafe to let people know where they stay. They have very different views, but his reasoning makes sense. He said if she posts, she should wait until the trip ends and they leave the place before posting.
Or if it’s their home, he prefers she not post where they live or what’s inside because it’s not safe. But Thai people often post what’s in their home. He thinks there’s no need for everyone to know details about their home. They have to find a middle ground.
Regarding the drama caused by harassment, does she think her silence then was the right choice?
"Everything I decide tends to be right. I told myself at that time I didn’t know what would happen if I spoke. People might believe me and no longer make crazy comments. Even now, some still comment that of course I wouldn’t post my husband’s photo because he’s not mine. There are still comments like that, but I don’t get angry. I try to understand because I’m not the one explaining it myself."
Ice said people with foreign friends understand, and some commented that their foreign friends also don’t allow photos to be posted. She said that in the past, Thai people would take photos at friends’ houses without permission as a normal thing. But foreigners always ask permission, even in stores or restaurants. Ice believes this is something to gradually absorb and respect.
What is her outlook on life entering her 40s?
"Nothing is certain; certainty is uncertainty. We never know. For example, today I’m very happy looking at my husband and child and feeling so joyful. What will happen tomorrow? Don’t blame the past thinking you shouldn’t have chosen this. On the day you chose, it was the best choice. Whatever the future holds, enjoy it."
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