Tomorrow (8 Feb 2026) marks an important election day. The political atmosphere in this final stretch is hotter than Thailand's weather. And of course, the most intense arena might not be the debate stage but rather the "dinner table at home."
When different generations like the Baby Boomer generation (parents, grandparents) sit down to eat with Gen Z (children, grandchildren), the contrast in information sources and political beliefs often turns a delicious meal into a "day of reckoning," leaving the food tasting bland.
To ensure tonight's and tomorrow’s meals go smoothly, we have a survival and communication guide that will help you share political views without breaking up the family or losing face with each other.
First, understand why we often fail to communicate.
Before starting the discussion, accept one truth: we and they grew up in very different worlds. Gen B was raised on mainstream media, television, and newspapers that emphasized stability, gratitude, and respect for elders.
Meanwhile, Gen Z grew up with the internet, Twitter (X), and TikTok, where information flows fast and focuses on equality, questioning authority, and change.
Even more troubling is social media algorithms that feed each side only what they like, creating different "truths" for each. So, conversations aren't just about logic but a clash of worldviews.
1. Change your goal: Talk to "share" rather than to "win."
The first and most important rule is to put your ego aside and tell yourself, "Today, we're not here to debate or change anyone's mind." Trying to force information or win arguments will only build walls in the heart. Expecting to change the mind of someone who’s believed something for 30-40 years in one meal is impossible. Instead, aim to share what you know and listen to what they believe.
2. Use the "I Message" technique: Speak your feelings instead of facts.
When conversations start with "You’re wrong, Dad" or "Mom, who did you listen to?" conflicts erupt immediately. Try starting with your feelings to reduce tension. For example, instead of saying, "This party is terrible, how could you vote for them?" say, "I feel worried about finding a job in the future and want policies that support wages." Talking about personal hopes or concerns helps elders listen with empathy as family rather than political opponents.
3. Find common ground; reserve differences.
Even if you support opposite sides, believe that deep down everyone at the table wants the same thing: "a better country" and "happiness for the next generation." Shift the conversation from individuals or parties to everyday issues like the cost of living, traffic jams, PM2.5 pollution, or healthcare benefits.
When we focus on "problems" rather than "people," we often find agreement on many points. How to solve those problems and who to vote for should be personal choices we respect.
4. Know when to cut losses: step back when things heat up.
A skilled warrior knows when to retreat. If you notice voices rising, faces reddening, or foul language, stop immediately. Don’t stubbornly continue with anger. Politely ending the talk is not a loss of face.
A golden phrase to use is, "Let's eat first before the food gets cold," or "Let's put aside stressful topics for now; I want a happy meal with my parents." Showing that you value the relationship more than election results helps everyone regain composure.
Elections happen once and then pass, but family lasts forever. No matter who wins or loses tomorrow, don’t let election results destroy lifelong relationships. Use this chance to practice democracy at home by respecting differences and loving each other while accepting that "we are not the same."