This article compiles ways to handle encounters with friends who have extreme opposing political views, offering advice on maintaining relationships both online and offline without ending the friendship.
Since the close of the election on 8 Feb 2026 GMT+7, political disagreements have surged both online and offline. Many people have lost long-standing friendships simply because of"disagreements."But in reality, we can coexist with those who think differently without losing our identity or friendships. We will delve into the psychology of gently coexisting with friends from opposite sides, so that the word"friend"remains above all sets of beliefs.
In social psychology, political beliefs are often tied to"core values"and personal identity. When a friend criticizes the political side we support, the brain signals it as a direct attack on our identity, triggering a"fight or flight"response, which can lead to confrontation or eventually pressing Unfriend.
Before starting a heated conversation, always remember what has kept you friends for so long. Shared interests in sports, music, or school memories are"anchors"that help hold the relationship together despite political currents.
If political talks always end in conflict, agree beforehand that"we will not discuss politics at the bar or in group chats."This is not avoiding the problem but preserving a safe space where the friendship can breathe.
When a friend starts expressing their views, use active listening without rushing to judge. Ask yourself,"What led them to think this way?"Understanding the origin of a friend's thoughts greatly reduces our biases.
Social media is often the most intense battleground. If a friend's feed feels toxic, using"Snooze"(temporary pause) or"Mute"(hide posts) is a better option than unfriending, as it prevents exposure to emotionally triggering content while keeping the connection intact.
If you must discuss, start sentences with your feelings, like"I feel uncomfortable when this topic is mentioned..."instead of saying,"You are wrong."or"You have been brainwashed."which push friends away as enemies.
When political differences become toxic relationships, no matter how hard you try, if they lead to dehumanization or continuous verbal abuse, you have the right to step back to protect your mental health because"a good friendship must be based on mutual respect."
Politics is temporary, but friendships are usually long-term. Accepting that we can"agree to disagree"is an important maturity in democratic society. Choosing a gentle approach doesn't mean abandoning your ideals but rather valuing"the humanity"of your friends more than a single ballot paper.