Why Giving a Handkerchief as a Gift Is Forbidden: Revealing the Superstitious Belief About Wiping Tears That Recipients May Dislike

Explaining the reason why "Giving a handkerchief as a gift is forbidden" according to ancient beliefs and astrology, which see it as a symbol of tears and farewell, along with simple remedies if giving one is necessary for peace of mind of both giver and receiver.

When choosing gifts for special occasions, whether birthdays, New Year's, or anniversaries, aside from considering the recipient's preferences, "gift-related superstitions" are also a significant factor for Thai and Asian people. One item frequently warned against is the "handkerchief." It is categorized as a forbidden gift that people generally avoid giving.

Origins of the belief: why "giving a handkerchief" as a gift is forbidden

According to ancient Thai and Chinese cultural beliefs, a handkerchief was created for the purpose of "wiping away tears" and "wiping sweat and grime." Giving a handkerchief as a gift is therefore seen as offering sorrow and hardship to the recipient.

Moreover, in historical and literary contexts from the past, the handkerchief was also used as a symbol of "waving goodbye" when parting ways. Thus, from the astrological and superstitious perspective, giving a handkerchief is interpreted as potentially bringing events that cause tears or the likelihood of separation and estrangement, especially among lovers or close friends.

The meaning of giving a "handkerchief" as a gift has evolved over time

In modern times, giving a handkerchief can be interpreted in various ways, such as the giver perceiving the recipient as sensitive or prone to crying, or in some cases, as a personal hygiene item, making it less appropriate as a semi-formal gift.

However, with lifestyle changes today, many people use handkerchiefs to reduce tissue paper use for environmental reasons, so this belief depends largely on individual discretion and comfort.

Remedies if you must give or receive a handkerchief as a gift

If it becomes necessary to give or receive a handkerchief from elders or close acquaintances, traditional beliefs suggest remedies for peace of mind as follows:

• Return a coin The recipient should return a coin (such as 1, 5, or 10 baht) to the giver to symbolize a purchase rather than receiving a gift, which helps dispel negative energy related to separation.
• Include a greeting card with positive meaning The giver should write a clear message, such as "given for health care" or "to wipe away the sweat of success," to shift the focus from sadness to care.

Recommended auspicious gift alternatives to replace the "handkerchief"

For those concerned about the superstition and wishing to avoid giving a handkerchief, alternative meaningful and practical gifts include:

• Scented items or reed diffusers symbolizing happiness, relaxation, and a pleasant reputation.
• Small auspicious plants symbolizing growth, stability, and tranquility.
• Quality wallets symbolizing wishes for good fortune and wealth flowing to the recipient.

The most important aspect of gift-giving is the "good intention" and "sincerity" of the giver. Although the taboo about certain gifts is a cultural heritage meant as a reminder, if both giver and receiver understand and communicate with goodwill, such beliefs will not hinder their relationship.

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