November has arrived quickly. As the year ends, a recurring conversation is that this year has been tough, but it has helped us work through certain matters and gain greater freedom. Meanwhile, the process of 'working on ourselves' is as challenging as external issues, yet it is truly a valuable long-term investment in life.
The theme I considered for this card reading aligns with Scorpio’s sign, known for deep introspection. The topic is “Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?” Often, we admire each person’s strengths but forget that what we label as 'weaknesses' (such as sensitivity, stubbornness, bluntness, or being hard to understand) contain underlying stories. If we can understand these without judgment or frustration, we may find a key—an understanding that allows us to live more harmoniously.
Thus, this reading carries a sense of 'Shadow Work,' or working with our inner shadows. However, I don’t want any words or phrases here to serve as judgments about who you are, what you’ve experienced, or what you should do. The parts we avoid looking at are the most delicate, hiding both great vulnerability and strength. Only the owner of these stories knows how to care for or understand those parts.
Furthermore, beginning to care for and work through difficult personal issues isn’t easy. You don’t need to rush or think you must resolve everything alone. The guidance from the cards for nearly every sign hints that you should return to listening to your inner voice and true needs—perhaps by writing them down—and find a small safe space to share with someone you trust. By taking gradual steps like this, you will slowly understand yourself better, learn what comforts you most, and feel less alone.
If I may add advice, if it feels too difficult to face your stories or you don’t know whom to confide in, remember that mental health professionals are available to support you. We all have parts we avoid facing, myself included. Let’s gently try to meet and hold those parts with kindness. If you feel overwhelmed, it’s okay to rest, but don’t abandon these parts entirely.
The decks used here are the Yukika Tarot by Stasia Yukika Burrington—a tarot deck created to support those in life transitions—and the Cries of the Souls Oracle by Isabelle Cerf (illustrated by Daphna Sebbane), which helps us see emotional pain from a new, compassionate perspective.
The zodiac dates referenced in this column follow Thai astrological calculations, but if you prefer Western astrology, feel free to read according to either your zodiac sign or ascendant, whichever you feel more connected to.
♈ Aries (13 Apr - 13 May): Give and Receive in Balance
(Queen of Cups - Dark Night of the Soul - The Sun)
Recently or in the past, you may have felt overwhelmed carrying everything yourself. Exhaustion made you want to let it all go. But from another perspective, this shows your admirable sacrifice in extending your care and embrace to others.
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- You drew the Queen of Cups. The part you tend to avoid is your sensitivity—sometimes seeming overly emotional or absorbing others’ feelings deeply. You might resist admitting that your exhaustion stems from trying to be everything for everyone and holding too much fatigue inside.
- But the Queen of Cups’ strength lies in her impressive ability to nurture others’ feelings. Her gentleness is not weakness; this sensitivity enables her to create much beauty.
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You drew Dark Night of the Soul, with the message “I ask for help when I need it.” This card tells you that no matter how empathetic you are, you cannot endure tough nights or challenges alone. You will accomplish more if you welcome and dare to ask for help from trusted people. It’s okay if the help isn’t direct action but kind words, a hug, or respect for your need to rest.
- More importantly, you will gain clarity about your worth, desires, and courage to be your authentic self—imperfect but able to give and receive love in balance. Like the bright joy in The Sun card, where two people share appreciation for sunlight and flowers held together.
- The cards also suggest reflecting on your past leadership roles, recognizing the challenges you’ve overcome and your achievements. Don’t forget to openly thank yourself in the mirror.
Summary: Your gentleness and sensitivity are treasures that connect you meaningfully to others. To sustain this, you must respect your energy boundaries and avoid letting your inner well run dry.
♉ Taurus (14 May - 13 Jun): Steadfast on Your Path
(Knight of Pentacles - Energy Sponge - 7 of Cups)
Have you ever felt frustrated with your own slowness? Repeating the same routines, feeling life isn’t progressing? You might wonder why your life isn’t vibrant or rising dramatically like others’. Actually, this steadiness could be a strength many lack.
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- You drew the Knight of Pentacles, described as The Builder. The part you avoid is your 'slow but steady' progress. This might be misunderstood as lack of ambition or laziness, but it’s actually the reliable slow pace many desire.
- Consider the card’s image: a person carrying a stone uphill, focused on the ground rather than the sky. Their patience lets them notice small wildflowers others overlook. Small joys along the way matter as much as the big destination.
- What you’re building may not be flashy, but every slow step sows seeds and nurtures your life with discipline and understanding of your intentions.
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You drew Energy Sponge, saying “I balance my external and internal worlds.” The recurring crescent moon symbol suggests adapting naturally to life’s rhythms: beginnings, middles, rests, and completions. Remember your energy naturally fluctuates; don’t force constant steadiness.
- Design times for quiet self-reflection and times to shine outward, as suits you. Every phase is a worthwhile investment in yourself.
- With a strong foundation, your future holds the 7 of Cups, depicting crossroads with various paths: to water, gardens, or storms. Your discipline and patience grant you choices ahead. Even if challenges arise, you can handle risks yourself. Your firm commitment means you won’t be misled by flashy distractions but will reach what truly suits your heart.
Summary: Don’t lose heart if others doubt your path’s potential. When outside noise distracts, return to yourself to hear your clearest voice. Everyone has their own choices, and yours are your right.
♊ Gemini (14 Jun - 14 Jul): Confidence in Your Choices
(2 of Wands - Dependency - King of Swords)
You want to build things with someone trusted, not decide alone. But sometimes that means waiting for others’ decisions or fearing to choose, delaying your start. From now on, try being your own first teammate.
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- You drew the 2 of Wands, symbolizing decisions and supportive partnerships, showing a man and woman tending a shared fire with a boat’s rudder symbol guiding direction. The part you avoid may be feeling unsafe without guidance or support, or hesitating to move forward alone despite having choices.
- Alternatively, you might cling to a supporting role for someone else, not truly starting to pursue your own goals.
- All this may reflect a lack of self-trust, causing your progress to stall. Yet this means you still have many good goals and ideas waiting for you to nurture, all within your power to decide.
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You drew Dependency, with the message “I build a healthy foundation for myself and others.” This means beginning a close relationship with yourself. When you must go forward alone, be your own buddy and support yourself. Not having a team doesn’t mean the goal lacks value; it calls you to lead your own path.
- Similarly, not supporting others doesn’t lessen your importance. We can support each other while maintaining personal space.
- At your journey’s end, you can embody the King of Swords’ power—sharp decision-making, courage to accept consequences, and confident communication. Feedback from supporters will further build your confidence.
Summary: Start by talking more with yourself. Hear what makes you feel good and empowered, what you want or don’t want, what you can or cannot accept. You don’t have to accept everything that isn’t truly your desire. As your choices and decisions strengthen, you’ll be confident in your path ahead, no matter what arises.
♋ Cancer (15 Jul - 16 Aug): Open Your Heart to a Broader Life
(Justice - Inhibiting Comfort Zone - Matrix)
Are there times you tell yourself, “This makes sense,” but inside you feel differently? The outside world beyond old mindsets is waiting for you to explore and love more.
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- You drew Justice, often about fairness and right or wrong. The card depicts someone alone facing consequences after judgment. You may be a fair and honest judge of yourself, accepting outcomes, but your feelings await care—perhaps loneliness, loss, or wanting to shout, “This isn’t fair!”
- Put differently, you might rely too much on logic to control life—what’s right is this, wrong is that—and force yourself to accept it. The question is: does that logic truly come from you, or from past events that shaped your beliefs?
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You drew a card about comfort zones with the message “I am brave and ready to move forward.” Perhaps past judgments have expired in your current life. It’s time to release control and live more freely. Past decisions aren’t cages for your intentions or feelings.
- Additionally, your adherence to logic may be a comfort zone. What’s outside that reason might feel unsafe. But unexamined, outdated logic can become a barrier to trying new things (e.g., someone once said, “At your age, you’re not ready to...,” causing you to feel 'too young' to do something, even if you’ve grown or changed). Only you know who you truly are now.
- Another suggestion comes from the Matrix card, akin to the Empress in traditional decks. What awaits you inside is steady as a mountain—standing firm through storms, facing challenges with love and self-respect, never losing your core.
Summary: Your true self and heart are greater than any limits you once accepted. Step out, face the world, change, and obstacles with love and joy. Returning to your authentic nature will empower you to overcome difficulties and grow in balance, without needing to run from anything.
♌ Leo (17 Aug - 16 Sep): Shed Your Armor to Embrace Yourself
(Ward - Rejection - Justice)
You show clear strength and have built a solid foundation as a refuge against challenges. Yet deep down, you sometimes have a soft spot—a child who fears rejection and longs for comfort and care.
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- You drew Ward, corresponding to the Emperor card in traditional decks. When out of balance, it can represent authoritarian or stubborn traits. The part you avoid might be the harshness that rises when you feel unsafe, forming walls to keep others out or an overused leadership role that causes overprotection.
- On the other hand, Ward can symbolize masculine energy unwilling to be vulnerable, protecting something inside from further disturbance. Yet you know sometimes this is just a shell. If you peel it back and work with what’s hidden, you might find balance and redefine strength and vulnerability without judgment—you can be both firm and fragile, brave and afraid, and still ask for help.
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You also drew Rejection, saying “I open myself with trust to the outside world.” If your protective walls stem from past rejection or loss of trust, start by communicating with that inner child to care for past fears. You don’t need to be guarded all the time going forward.
- The Justice card here shows a child among loss. Naturally, they feel deeply. One way to unlock your heart is to allow yourself to feel whatever events bring—big or small—without freezing or suppressing your feelings. If afraid, say you’re afraid; if hurt, say you’re hurt.
- However, releasing fear isn’t easy. You don’t need to do it all at once or alone. Try the 'sharing' approach—tell a trusted person your story, share your creative work, or let someone help carry your burden. Over time, past fears will ease.
Summary: The strong walls you built to survive tough days are both helpful and obstructive. As those walls soften, you don’t need to force strength, and the help you deserve will come more easily.
♍ Virgo (17 Sep - 16 Oct): Set Rules and Start Having Fun
(7 of Wands - Past Lessons - Page of Wands)
You fight hard and never give up, standing firm on your principles and solving problems even when others quit. Your determination is admirable, but do you sometimes feel tired or lonely?
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- This part reflects both pride and a desire to let go, shown by the 7 of Wands. The card depicts a girl in animal pelts beside a wild beast, signaling courage and boldness in challenges. Sounds good, right? But sometimes you may not want to stay there—you might want to rest or even surrender, yet your problem-solver role keeps pulling you onward.
- Also, the wildness symbolized by the beast suggests you might wish to be more spontaneous and follow instincts without overthinking. But you hesitate, perhaps judging yourself for that.
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You drew Past Lessons, with the message “I set my own rules while respecting others’ boundaries.” Consider if you still hold rigid rules learned from adults or others that define how you must be to be acceptable, which may imprison your true self. It’s time to review and release unhelpful rules.
- Wildness isn’t always negative or rough; it’s sincere instinct before it’s polished away. Is there something you do that frees you from rules through creative expression without right or wrong? You may discover other playful, experimental sides beyond your usual self.
- Listen clearly to your needs and begin crafting your life’s guidebook in your style. As long as you respect others’ boundaries, you have full rights to your space.
Summary: Try letting go of old roles and rules, reconnect with your nature and instincts, and create a life space uniquely yours. Reconnecting with yourself is the start of dispelling fatigue and loneliness. Remember, your true self is beautiful and impressive.
♎ Libra (17 Oct - 15 Nov): Every Choice Shapes Your Future
(Death - Negative Free Will - 5 of Swords)
Everyone carries past disappointments, pain, or losses. Sometimes you may still shed tears over old wounds. That’s okay, but don’t forget the small light emerging, ready to guide you toward a brighter future.
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- You drew Death, representing transition and endings. You may have deep, hidden stories you avoid discussing because they evoke strong feelings.
- Alternatively, you might resist moving on because the unknown that follows is unsettling. Sometimes you avoid decisions or actions to delay facing this. The key to gradually facing the unknown is to do so gently, without pressure, like moving with the seasons, possibly finding a new you by spring.
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You drew Negative Free Will with the message “My free will helps me create a strong and empowered life.” This reflects that you can choose to see your power more, instead of feeling powerless or tied to past events. You have the right to design your future, regardless of past experiences.
- If you lost key opportunities—education, work, or happiness—the card encourages confidence that these failures don’t define you. You are more than what happened to you.
- Begin easing self-criticism by listening for inner voices that say you’re powerless or stuck. The truth is you are still here, facing and overcoming challenges. Within your pain are qualities worthy of admiration. Let’s find them together.
Summary: You don’t have to believe every negative thought during tough times, whether about past or future worries. The answer is you still have the present, where you can choose differently. Clench your fist just firmly enough, recognize your strength, learn from the past, and create the future you want.
♏ Scorpio (16 Nov - 15 Dec): Return Softness to Yourself
(Ward - Narcissistic Faults - 4 of Cups)
You carry self-confidence everywhere, something you take pride in. But it’s okay to have days when you feel uncertain, want solitude, or quiet time. Everyone needs moments to be with themselves without rushing to understand everything.
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- You drew Ward, the same as Leo’s card, corresponding to the Emperor in traditional decks. It shows a man revealing scars and a bandaged arm. The part you avoid may be small wounds or feelings of weakness or failure, though it’s not always so.
- You might not realize that when hurt, you try to appear stronger to distract from the bandaged parts you still must heal. Wanting to 'handle it' may cause neglect of true healing, weakening your inner strength. On days when pain resurfaces, managing things may become harder.
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You drew Narcissistic Faults, with the message “I soothe my inner pain.” This encourages giving yourself more time to explore what emotional wounds remain untreated. These don’t have to be big events; if they still affect you, they’re meaningful enough to start caring for.
- Another hint comes from 4 of Cups, showing someone sitting apart, not reaching for four cups around them. This suggests taking quiet time to listen deeply before acting. Ask yourself: what inner voices or stories have you ignored? Removing outside advice, what help do you most need?
Summary: Don’t fear days when you feel weak or depleted. On such days, important issues become clearer and easier to address. Having wounds isn’t bad; caring for them softens your heart and strengthens your spirit. These experiences help you understand others’ struggles too.
♐ Sagittarius (16 Dec - 13 Jan): Root Yourself Through Experience
(Page of Wands - Fear of Separation - King of Pentacles)
Your playful and adventurous energy is valuable. But sometimes you might feel it hinders settling down or pursuing long-term commitments.
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- You drew the Page of Wands, depicting a punk-styled youth with a bright smile. Have you felt childish at times? Or do you enjoy starting new things but struggle to sustain the passion, continually beginning anew without knowing when it ends?
- Your cheerful, youthful persona might be judged by some as unreliable or unserious, though you know that’s untrue.
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You drew Fear of Separation, with the message “Losing something opens the way for new things.” First, recognize your courage in trying many things, whether jobs, homes, or relationships. Starting over each time is not easy, and you know this best.
- Next, reflect on whether your moves to new things come from genuine intent or from fear—fear of attachment, disappointment, or painful separation—leading you to keep connections superficial. If so, acknowledging this fear is a good first step.
- Leaving or losing something doesn’t erase it from your life. Experiences, memories, and lessons crystallize into meaning and resources within you. Feeling sadness or longing is normal. These feelings arise because you dared to stay with something long enough and cherished that time.
Summary: As you journey and gather varied experiences, you will gradually choose places your heart wants to stay. When you must part again, just remember to thank the experiences that shaped you. Then, tears of farewell will hold not only sorrow but also joy.
♑ Capricorn (14 Jan - 12 Feb): Cultivate Your Relationships
(10 of Cups - Secrets - King of Pentacles)
We all strive for happiness or to bring smiles to others. But if we focus only on that, we won’t fully be ourselves. Whatever 'secrets' you carry inside that you hesitate to reveal, know that this brief moment is safe enough to be honest with yourself.
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- You drew the 10 of Cups, symbolizing fullness, long-term relationship success, or family. You might be someone who always tries to give fully to others, putting your own needs aside because others’ happiness comes first. You are trusted to care for others.
- When you give so much, sometimes you must admit there are days you’re unhappy doing so, or want to put yourself first. Yet your inner voice urges you to stay nice to close ones. When conflicting voices clash, you may lose touch with your own feelings of exhaustion or obstacles. Without hearing yourself, communicating honestly to others becomes harder.
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You drew Secrets with the message “I communicate honestly and sincerely.” This invites you to listen to yourself: what have you wanted to say but stayed silent for others or to keep peace? Those feelings and needs become unspoken secrets.
- This doesn’t mean you must say everything to everyone. Practice expressing yourself gradually, according to trust and understanding levels with each person.
- Just don’t force yourself to always maintain happiness. Then you’ll find safe space to share your truth with someone. Happiness doesn’t come only from smiles but also from supporting each other through life’s ups and downs. Who knows—sharing more might ease your heart and help listeners more than you expect.
Summary: Honest communication’s result isn’t short-term comfort but relationship stability. Even if days don’t meet expectations, you remain solid ground supporting each other.
♒ Aquarius (13 Feb - 13 Mar): Integration Is Balance
(Temperance - Betrayal - 4 of Wands)
Everyone experiences adjustment periods to live with others, sometimes unsure what balance works best for all, as we have differing needs and identities. The good news is you don’t have to find the ‘perfect’ balance but start by building trust in relationships.
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- You drew Temperance, associated with tuning, adapting, balancing, and compromise. The part you avoid may feel you compromise too much for others, losing your stance and needs. Or perhaps you feel stubborn sometimes, causing conflicts or wondering why others don’t understand or adapt to you.
- Whichever side you are on, blending colors in relationships beautifully isn’t easy but can be practiced patiently with yourself and others. Progress won’t be a straight line but a daily learning about yourself and loved ones.
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You drew Betrayal with the message “I trust the outside world.” This suggests past disappointments or hurts may have eroded your trust, leading you to avoid conflict by accommodating others or trying to control interactions to prevent harm, resulting in rigidity.
- Starting to unlock means not blaming who is right or wrong or who must compromise more, but rebuilding trust with those around you and creating mutual space. Adjust your understanding that occasional disagreements don’t mean lack of support.
- If you feel uncertain or triggered by past issues, respectfully sharing these feelings can open hearts and deepen mutual understanding.
Summary: Relationship blessings come not from perfect harmony at the start but from time and trust-building that allows space for authentic selves to grow and support each other like a house with sturdy pillars and open rooms to breathe.
♓ Pisces (14 Mar - 12 Apr): Cherish Your Uniqueness
(The Druid - Dependency - 7 of Wands)
Is there a part of yourself you can’t quite define but is unlike anyone else? Something you’re still learning about and don’t want others to judge.
Which part of ourselves do we avoid facing but secretly holds power?
- You drew The Druid, akin to The High Priestess in traditional decks. If defining the part you avoid but which hides power, older terms might call it 'indie,' but today, it’s simply being yourself, resisting social stereotypes. For example, you might have niche beliefs or fluid identities, including gender and sexuality.
- You may not always dislike these sides, but when society—family, school, work, or others—doesn’t understand them, 'being natural' becomes hard amid external voices. Sometimes you grow tired of explaining or finding people who truly get you.
How can we gradually unlock this?
- You drew Dependency, like Gemini’s card, with the message “I build a healthy foundation for myself and others.” But here, it urges you to trust that when you’re stable and confident in yourself, your true nature is the space where you live most comfortably. When at ease, you can trust that what you project is authentic, attracting the right friends and close ones who accept you—even without naming those traits. Remember, you are your first safe space.
- By daring to be yourself, keep in mind you inspire many others who may feel marginalized or unaccepted to stand up and be themselves in safe spaces.
Summary: You don’t need to change your unique traits to fit in, fearing loneliness. Every day you confidently live your truth, you embody a powerful symbol that we can build a welcoming space for diversity together.
